Thursday, December 1, 2016

After The Wedding Film: Lauren Tripp Barlis

"I could not be more grateful for the sense of trust and loyalty that we give each other every day." - Lauren 

Lauren is a UF Alumni and former UF instructor. She lives with her husband, Jeff and two children in Palm Harbor, Florida. She and Jeff had a fabulous outdoor Thomas Center wedding 3 years ago with perfect weather. Here is a peak into her wedding film and life before, during and after the wedding film!

On Meeting
Jeff and I met at Alcove, a teeny little bar that no longer exists in downtown Gainesville. We had a mutual friend who introduced us (and who now likes to take credit for our marriage), and our second date was also at Alcove. It was one of those nights where we sat down at the bar at 9, and the next thing I knew they were announcing last call. I swear it felt like 5 minutes had gone by because I was so wrapped up in our conversation.

On The Wedding Day
Our wedding was magical. 
We had to fight to have it completely outside at the Thomas Center! But because both of us had been in Gainesville for so long, we knew we wanted those gorgeous oak trees to be surrounding us as we exchanged our vows and celebrated. The Thomas Center had not hosted a dinner outside in years, and we actually had a caterer decide not to work with us because the setup was a little tricky. But once I sat down at our table with the twinkling market lights over us and the fountain sparkling next to us and the oak trees towering over us...I knew we had made the right choice.

On Married Life
Life as a married couple: well, we only had that for about 6 months before we moved into life as parents! I got pregnant soon after we were married, and now, almost four years later, we have two beautiful children: Josie, who is two, and Benjamin, who is 6 months old. Our life is COMPLETELY different these days from our previous life of leisure and travel and live music and dinner with friends. There is a lot less sleep, for one thing. But there is certainly a joy multiplied and a gratitude within the exhaustion. Raising kids is so hard and requires a completely different skill set than developing a romantic relationship. But Jeff's partnership makes it possible for me to continue to pursue the work outside of the home that I am passionate about, and I could not be more grateful for the sense of trust and loyalty that we give each other every day.

On Marriage 
In fact, that would be my advice to couples about to marry or who have just gotten married: don't underestimate the power of trust and loyalty. They are quieter, less flashy emotions than intoxicating passion or the headiness of talking about life until the wee hours of the morning, but they are the ones that you need when it's 5am and your babies have both been up since 3am and now you both have to get ready for work and do it all over again. You redefine those middle of the night conversations, but they are still there, and having someone who can make you laugh and support you no matter what is crucial. 

Oh, and a piece of advice that is almost as important: get an amazing videographer (ahem, Platinum Digital Video!) to document your wedding day. They will catch moments that you didn't see or don't remember (because it's all such a blur), and you will love having it to look back on. Jeff and I watch our video every year on our anniversary, and I can't wait to show it to our kids when they get a little older.


Thank you Lauren!

p.s. Check out "After The Wedding Film" posts one and two.

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